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  • Opinions from Men
    Hi Larry, I haven't been on in three or four days so I wasn't ignoring you. I get so busy with other things that I don't get on the internet sometimes for a while. I liked you essay very much.

    You asked how I got into wigs. I first started out with a toppers, but the clips end up hurting my head after wearing them if I do it all the time. The other night I put on a topper to go to the neighborhood bible study, & it was fine because I haven't worn it in a while. I like toppers & how they can blend in with my own hair but as i said I can't wear them all time. I bought several wigs in the same color & leave my own hair hanging down under them that blend in so I don't have to deal with clips. I started buying wigs to rotate so I wasn't having to clip them in. I have one wig that has clips just above my ears & those don't hurt me because I have more hair there. I have always had extremely baby fine hair, and it's gotten thinner as I've gotten older. I never had much to spare. I'm not bald at all, but my baby fine hair is such a hassle & looks a mess usually because it's hard to have it stay in place. When I didn't wear toppers or wigs I had to use a lot of hairspray to hold down the wispy little bangs & top. My hair also holds a curl for about a half hour before it's straight again. I color my hair but within a week and a half to two weeks it's already showing the gray roots. Another good reason to throw on a wig or topper. I fear coloring it too much because the top of my hair is the thinnest & this can't be good for it. I have enjoyed trying out different colors & styles because my own hair would never be able to have all that done to it, plus I haven't got enough to do that with it. I have a lot of wigs & toppers, so you could call my a helper hair junkie. (LOL)
  • Opinions from Men
    Thank you. I think it's great that you're on here sharing your fun with wigs, or thoughts about other things.
  • Opinions from Men
    Don't leave, I like that you are on here.
  • Are you wearing a wig???
    Dearest Larry, Absolutely not, I see all kinds of bald men that look good. I only mentioned that this guy is bald because if someone is bald they should be understanding more so why someone would want to wear a wig. I think it's sad that men can get away with being bald & most people don't think a thing about it. If a woman goes out bald something is going to be said. People in general are more critical of women, I know I probably have been guilty of it at times myself. As an example, we all seem to notice women's aging necks but not so much on men. Recently I am taking a look at men's necks to see if they have any drooping. Sure enough they do, but we don't notice it as much on them. Some of the men in my age group have a lot of wrinkles & they seem to get away more so with those to. Luckily I only have a few fine lines & am ordering some retin A today in hopes of getting rid of those. (LOL) I know from looking at pictures of myself I look better in my wigs, so I refuse to not ever wear one when I'm in the mood. Today when I ran to the grocery store I wore my baseball cap because I didn't feel l like doing anything. Please know I'm not holding against you your nude head. My brother started going bald at age 21. I always felt sorry for him, especially back then because it was during the hippie era where men had this long, flowing hair. I was envious of some of their hair also. I always have had extremely baby fine hair. I call it toddler hair because that's exactly what it's like. I can make it look OK for a picture, but the problem I have with it is I have to use loads of hairspray on it, plus I can see when I'm walking towards a mirror how thin it is & how it flaps up & down. I love when I'm wearing a wig or a topper how I can have the window down in my car or have the AC blowing on me & my wig still looks great. I can't do that with my bio hair because it ends up looking like Shirley McClain's hair in Terms of endearment when she was riding in the convertible sticking straight up.
  • I Need Some Encouragement and Support
    Hi Larry, you're right about it being the people who treat someone badly who have the problem. I was unfortunately diagnosed with breast cancer 19 years ago. I was shocked by how some people treated me. One of my so called friends hung up on me when I told her, and I've never heard from her again. I suddenly wasn't the same person to her. I always listened to her about all her problems, because I'm the type of person who does listen to people & try to help them. She didn't like it now that I suddenly had a problem & the focus wasn't on her. I heard through someone we both knew that she claimed I was making up I had cancer. I wish I had, but why would I or anyone do that?? This crazy woman claimed she had ovarian cancer when she was 23, and I now suspect perhaps she really didn't. I had other people telling me I must have eaten wrong to get it, and a few said it must be bad karma that was punishing me. I rarely tell anyone now I ever had it, because I don't want to take the chance of strange looks or bizarre behavior. I finally realized these people are really the ones with cancer, and the very worst kind. They have cancer of their heart & souls. I have never treated anyone like that with any kind of illness even before my diagnoses. The best anyone can say is I'm sorry to hear it & I hope you'll be OK.

    Soon I have to go in for my annual mammogram & I always get nervous they're going to tell me they see a problem again. Please add me to your prayer list regarding this. I want them to tell me we see nothing & go home. (LOL) I see lots of men bald, so I don't know why your aunt would say you couldn't even come bald, and if you wore a hairpiece or wig it had to be a certain color. I've heard it all now!! I can see why you didn't bother to go. I'm glad you had other friends you saw who enjoy your red wig & call you ginger. It's best we hang out with people who are kind to us & stay away from the people who choose to be cruel. I can't understand how they can live with themselves treating people like that.

    God bless you,
    Sunset
  • I Need Some Encouragement and Support
    Hi Larry, it's so sad how people can be so judgemental about someone enjoying wear wigs. Wear them all you want. What counts is who you are on the inside. I can tell you are really a very nice person & that's something that is commendable to me. It's crazy how we live in such a world where people are treated like royalty if they are young & then dismissed when they get older. I was purchasing something the other day & the young guy said he included my discount. I asked if he meant a senior discount & he chuckled saying he didn't want to use the word senior. I told him it's a gift to get older & is much better than the inevitable. We all get wiser as we get older, or at least we should. (LOL) Don't ever let anyone put you down or make you feel bad if you want to wear wigs. I understand how you feel after what just happened to me with the guy asking me if I was wearing a wig. I felt like I had committed a crime with the way he asked. He has called me several times since that time, & I think it's funny how he seems interested in me. I told him we can be friends if he would like but that I don't think we are a match in the romantic department. He seems to be OK with that. If I ever see him again I think I'll just throw on my baseball cap & have my thin little ponytail hanging out the back of it. I feel comfortable lots of times wearing one of my baseball caps, and for sure I'm not wearing a wig then. (LOL) I will continue wearing wigs when I feel like it. I always wear one of my synthetic Jon Renau wigs to my neighborhood bible study. They always say they like my hair. I don't know if they know I'm wearing a wig or not. They've never asked, they just say my hair looks nice. I let my own baby fine hair hang down under it & wear it like a topper. It matches so well with the ends of my hair that it's incredible.
  • Jon Renau Ignite colors
    You might be able to find some videos on youtube showing those colors. I have found a lot of videos on there that have helped in seeing the wigs & how the colors look.
  • Are you wearing a wig???
    Hi Larry, you have all of us on here to talk to about it. I'm sure it probably is difficult to find guy friends to to talk to about it. I've known of men wearing hair pieces, and I think they're even more discreet about wearing them then women are about wearing wigs. I don't see what the big deal is about wearing a wig. I consider it like wearing a hat with hair. I think it's fun to wear different styles & colors just like I enjoy wearing different types of outfits. I feel like I have to stick close to the same color of a wig as my own hair in hopes no will know. I've never had anyone say anything & was shocked when that guy asked me. He was totally bald & I didn't say anything about that. I accept people as they are. If he wore I wig I wouldn't care. I do agree a few of my synthetic wigs look more natural especially on top then the HH wig I have. I love the color of the HH wig & hope someone can do something more with the top to make it look better. I didn't feel this guy who I know I'm never ever going to see again needs to know if I'm wearing a wig or not. If he was someone I was interested in I would have told him. I have a guy friend who has really thick hair & people think he's wearing a wig or hairpiece & he's not. (LOL)
  • Are you wearing a wig???
    I agree, he actually did me a favor is how I'm looking at it now. I'm now looking into buying another wig & spending more money in hopes of it being undetectable.
  • Are you wearing a wig???
    Larry, I haven't got on the site in a few days so I didn't see your posting to me. Thank you so much for writing it. It was anything but boring. I'm going to look into buying a more expensive wig in hopes it will look more real. I haven't worn that wig since that man asked me that. I am looking at it now as a favor he did for me. If he asked if it was a wig then it must look like one.

    God bless you & take care,

    Sunset
  • Lace front Ellen Wille wigs
    I hate the dark rooting also around the lace front. It looks very unnatural.
  • Have you ever been "CALLED OUT" on wearing a wig or hair piece?
    I was in a wig place yesterday & a girl there said one of her friends asked her if she was wearing wig. She said she was embarrassed to be asked this, & yes she was wearing a wig. That is really rude to ask someone that. I saw an interview with Barbara Walters talking to Diana Ross & Barbara bluntly asked her if she was wearing a wig.
  • I need help finding wig hats
    You could contact Milano wigs & order something how you want. I'm sure there must be other places, but I know for sure you can get one of these with them. Good luck & let us know when & if you get one.
  • So disappointed in Noriko
    The Noriko wig I have has way too much hair. I have really had to thin it out. It is frustrating to get your hopes up anxiously waiting for a wig & then to have it be such a disappointment. I recently ordered the same topper I've ordered before & I might as well throw it away. I have cut bangs into it as I always do, but it doesn't look the same as the other topper that's worn out now. The rooting is much darker, and I don't like real dark rooting. There is less hair in the back & I just would not feel comfortable wearing it.
  • How would you respond?
    I was actually told by my ex I needed to go see a psychiatrist over my obsession over my thin, lifeless hair. What could a psychiatrist do to have made me accept this horrible hair? They couldn't, so a wig or hairpiece can make me feel better. I feel guilty like I'm committing a sin wearing fake hair, but it's a shame there has to be such a stigma with it. Women wear fake nails, fake eyelashes, push up bras, fake tans ect, and that's totally acceptable. I felt strange when I went to see my accountant. She said at least three times My goodness what are you doing, you actually are looking younger. I told her it must be the glasses I was wearing. (LOL) It felt good to be told I looked younger though. Who doesn't want to hear that? I didn't want to mention I was wearing a wig; then it would turn into that I'm not being real. I still have the same face, same body & everything else, I'm just arriving with a normal amount of hair like I wonder I couldn't have been gifted with. I look around & see all these other women with normal amounts of hair, and being able to wear different styles. I was at an outdoor event yesterday & the wind was blowing. I felt safe with my wig on because it was clipped on, and I thought about what a disaster my bio hair would have ended up looking like. I would have had to of pulled on a baseball cap. Even when I wear a baseball cap I have to spray down the sides to keep my hair from coming out the sides. One man there mentioned about my brother getting a hair transplant in the early 70's and how it looked so bad. I asked this man who has a full head of hair if he wouldn't have felt bad going bald in her early 20's. People just don't understand & it's very sad.
  • How would you respond?
    I never ever tell someone I'm wearing a topper or a wig. I don't feel comfortable doing it. I get a lot of compliments & i just say thank you & try to change the subject. I'm embarrassed over my thin, fine lifeless hair that won't hold a curl & won't even hold color for very long. I look so much better with having more hair, and I enjoy being able to look better. Why wouldn't anyone want to look better? I don't want to explain to people why I wear a wig or hair piece. It is what it is. If anyone has ever suspected they've never said anything. I don't know what I would say if someone asked me if I was wearing a wig. I'll have to deal with that if it ever happens. My hair has always been extremely thin & baby fine. It has literally ruined my life & kept me from doing a lot of things. People that have a normal amount of hair don't understand.
  • Budget Wigs? Anyone?
    I have a Vivica Fox wig & I love it. Can't beat the price, it looks as good as some of my more expensive wigs.
  • Cameron, Rene of Paris
    I have the ROP Cameron & it is a very popular, cute wig.
  • Synthetic Wig Shampoo and Hairspray
    I haven't seen any fading of the color of my go to HH wig I've had for five years. It's a beautiful strawberry blonde & has remained that color. If it did ever fade, I would take it back to the guy I bought it from & have him spruce it up. I'd be afraid to fool with the color on either of my HH wigs. I don't baby this wig at all. When I take it off I just lay it in the drawer.
  • Synthetic Wig Shampoo and Hairspray
    I bought both my human hair wigs out of wig store. The first one I bought five years ago, & I got a heck of a buy. I paid $450.00. The hair is still really smooth & beautiful. It's about four to five inches past my shoulders. It's real easy to style. I just use the curling iron occasionally on the ends, and it holds the curl for a long, long time. The 2nd human hair wig I bought about six months ago & I paid $1100.00. This one is layered & also holds the curl really well. With either of these wigs all I have to do is brush through them & put them on. I love how I can use a regular brush, and I haven't seen any shedding at all. I like my synthetic wigs; however, they do shed & the ends get to looking really dry. One of my wigs, the spotlight by Raquel Welch, I just dearly loved. After only about three weeks the ends started looking like the end of a broom; it was horrible & I'm still so sad about it. I had to cut it to where it's now a shoulder length bob. It looks good this way, but I didn't want it in a bob. I have the Haute wig by Jon Renau & that's a bob. I didn't need another one. People are used to seeing me in longer styles so I don't wear the bob wigs that often. I would personally be terrified in buying a human hair wig online, where i'm not afraid to buy a synthetic one. I don't wear the newest $1100.00 as often as I do the one I got five years ago. Although it's beautiful, I really didn't need to buy another human hair wig. (I just went crazy one day with my wig addiction) I actually feel it has too much hair, & like the lower density of the first one I bought. I thin out synthetic wigs all the time, but I'm afraid to do it with this beautiful wig. I haven't ever washed it yet, so I don't know how it will dry when I do. My first one dries really nice & smooth with no frizzing whatsoever. As I mentioned before, I have a human hair topper & it was beautiful, but it now looks frizzy & I know it must have really bad human hair. My bio hair is straight & smooth, my problem is it's so baby fine it won't hold a curl, hold color & stay in place with the slightest bit of wind. Sorry this was so long. (LOL)
  • Synthetic Wig Shampoo and Hairspray
    This is why I really prefer human hair wigs. They last for a really long time. They may be more expensive, but in the long run not really since they last for many years compared to a few months. I don't have shedding with my human hair wigs like I do with the synthetics or tangling. It depends on the type of human hair though. My two human hair wigs have really nice hair. I have a human hair topper that looked good for a short time & now looks frizzy & I won't wear it.
  • Synthetic Wig Shampoo and Hairspray
    I use baby shampoo & then I use Tresemme moisture rich conditioner. Then I put on Garnier Fructis intensely smooth leave in conditioner. Sometimes I do a Downy Fabric no scent softener soak for 20 minutes. I use regular cheap hairspray on synthetics & my human hair wigs. The guy I bought my Human hair wig from told me to use this expensive hairspray & not to use regular cheap stuff, but I use it anyway. It washes out. I find the Sauve cheap hairspray holds the bangs much better. The synthetic sprays or other expensive hair sprays don't hold really very well. I use cheap hairspray on my bio hair also, it doesn't matter. I tried using expensive shampoos & conditioners & sprays on my bio hair & it looked bad anyway, so I don't bother with any of that anymore.
  • Same topper different color rooting
    My bio hair doesn't have dark roots, my roots are white & most of the time someone doesn't see my bio hair anyway. If I suddenly show up with real dark roots it is obvious I'm wearing a wig. I hate dark roots, slight shading is fine & looks more natural.
  • Have you ever been "CALLED OUT" on wearing a wig or hair piece?
    Whenever I receive compliments about my hair, or my faux hair, I just say thank you. I never say it's a wig. If they know then they know & have never said anything. I never once received compliments on my bio hair, except once from a drunk older guy. (LOL) He said he liked the color of my bio hair that's strawberry blonde. I go to have my teeth cleaned by my dental hygienist & she almost always compliments me on my hair. I'm wearing a topper & she's looking right down on top of me. Maybe she's figured out it's not all my hair, but I don't care. I have received so many compliments on my wigs or hairpieces it's overwhelming. I feel kind of guilty & wish my bio hair could look this good, but it never will.
  • Milano Wigrip
    I was trying to use the wig grip & letting my own hair hang down under the wig like a topper. I put my hair up & then used the wig grip & it worked great. My wig felt very secure.
  • Do You Cut the Brand Name Tags Out?
    Yes, I cut the tags out. I don't want to take the chance of them showing.
  • The Graytful Head! A Look at My Favorite Wig--Jamison in ChromeRT1B!
    I wish they had this in lighter roots, or no roots at all. I don't have dark hair so it wouldn't work for me. I do like this wig.
  • Milano Wigrip
    I don't personally like the milano wig grip; it kept always bunching up on me. When I bought a Milano wig I purchased a wigcap that has the wig grip built into it. I really like it if I'm wearing a wig shorter than my bio hair; it holds up my bio hair really good & makes a wig secure. It's very comfortable, although I think it might get real hot in the summer. When I wear longer wigs I just let my own bio hair hang down underneath.
  • The Graytful Head! A Look at My Favorite Wig--Jamison in ChromeRT1B!
    I agree with everything you said regarding my hair. I got a bad batch of hair, it's always been so baby fine, thin & lifeless. It doesn't hold a curl & doesn't hold color for long. Thank God for wigs & hairpieces. I leave out the door lots of times with my hair wet under a wig; who cares no one knows or is going to see my real hair. I can be ready to leave now in 10 minutes.