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  • First wig advice
    Just have fun and enjoy wearing it -- especially, the compliments.

    God bless,

    Larry
  • New Hair & New Color - what do you think?
    Hi,
    I’m working on a book about baldness and the social and emotional impact that comes with losing your hair. It will be an anthology and I’m looking for contributors. It will be a non profit project. Any money that will come from sales will go to paying expenses in producing this book, and any other money will go to charities such as the National Alopecia Areata Foundation and the American Cancer Society.

    I’m looking for personal stories and essays about topics associated with hair loss such as wigs, beauty, coping skills and embracing baldness.

    God bless,

    Larry S. Barbee
  • questions re: travel with a wig
    Hi,
    I’m working on a book about baldness and the social and emotional impact that comes with losing your hair. It will be an anthology and I’m looking for contributors. It will be a non profit project. Any money that will come from sales will go to paying expenses in producing this book, and any other money will go to charities such as the National Alopecia Areata Foundation and the American Cancer Society.

    I’m looking for personal stories and essays about topics associated with hair loss such as wigs, beauty, coping skills and embracing baldness.

    God bless,

    Larry S. Barbee
  • How would you respond?
    Hi,
    I’m working on a book about baldness and the social and emotional impact that comes with losing your hair. It will be an anthology and I’m looking for contributors. It will be a non profit project. Any money that will come from sales will go to paying expenses in producing this book, and any other money will go to charities such as the National Alopecia Areata Foundation and the American Cancer Society.

    I’m looking for personal stories and essays about topics associated with hair loss such as wigs, beauty, coping skills and embracing baldness.

    God bless,

    Larry S. Barbee
  • Human hair
    Hi,
    I’m working on a book about baldness and the social and emotional impact that comes with losing your hair. It will be an anthology and I’m looking for contributors. It will be a non profit project. Any money that will come from sales will go to paying expenses in producing this book, and any other money will go to charities such as the National Alopecia Areata Foundation and the American Cancer Society.

    I’m looking for personal stories and essays about topics associated with hair loss such as wigs, beauty, coping skills and embracing baldness.

    God bless,

    Larry S. Barbee
  • Wigs to bed
    Hi,
    I’m working on a book about baldness and the social and emotional impact that comes with losing your hair. It will be an anthology and I’m looking for contributors. It will be a non profit project. Any money that will come from sales will go to paying expenses in producing this book, and any other money will go to charities such as the National Alopecia Areata Foundation and the American Cancer Society.

    I’m looking for personal stories and essays about topics associated with hair loss such as wigs, beauty, coping skills and embracing baldness.

    God bless,

    Larry S. Barbee
  • Conflicting Feelings
    Sorry to hear that, Ann. There are still ways of getting around your concerns. The first one, obviously, is in the privacy of your home -- just you and your guy. And maybe intimate dinner parties where only close friends that you trust can be let in on your"secret." Don't forget vacations and trips where no one knows you.

    Also I think you'll find that your friends and family will be a lot more impressed and encouraging once they're let in on your "secret." They are called "flatter wigs" for a reason; here's hoping you will stop worrying about what others think -- and go get flattered!

    God bless,

    Larry
  • Options when you begin to go Gray.
    Thank you.

    God bless,

    Larry
  • Wig styling careers
    Thank you, Marburg, for your kind words of support.

    While I like to think I’m open to any possibilities in all things about my life, right now being a wig stylist is pretty much a closed door. I’d need a four year degree and take courses on topics I have no interest in.

    That does not mean there isn’t anything else I could be doing instead.

    I’m currently considering writing and editing a book about wigs and hair loss. I’m still praying about this, and one of the many considerations I feel about such a project is that I want the book to contain a lot of material from other people. Not because I’m a lazy writer (grin), but because I want the book to contain as many experiences as possible. The more experiences, the more chances there will be to provide inspiration to the reader.

    What do you think? I’d really like to know, and what you’d want and hope to find in such a book?

    God bless and love,

    Larry
  • Dating and Wigs
    I agree 100% -- choosing a time and place is crucial. Several people in my life weren't aware that I wear wigs (most kinda figure it out when they see me running around bald one day then magically have a head of red hair the next). On one occasion there was this really wonderful lady that seemed to be mutually interested in me. The trouble was, she had never seen me bald, and for the first and only time I continued to wear my wigs to HIDE my baldness. For me, that's about the only bad reason for wearing a wig. Remember I love being bald yet I hid it from her because I liked her and wanted her to continue liking me. I was ashamed of myself. For years I'd been helping people (including myself) to feel good about themselves bald. Anyway, this became intolerable for me. I asked her to read my essay, "A Special Wardrobe," admitted I was hiding the way I really look and that it was my favorite look. She loved the essay and wanted to see me without a wig, so I obliged her by removing it then and there.The world didn't end, she said I looked great, and we dated for several months, but stopped when a career opportunity meant she had to move.

    On another occasion, I asked my Priest first before I started engaging in my life style at church. He laughed and said he had no problem with it. I was concerned that it might become a distraction, which is why I wanted his permission. Once the congregation knew and understood my hair optional lifestyle, they became very supportive. I have a tendency to natter on, but hope that my experiences might help all of you to find your way in making wig wearing fun yet also helpful to yourself and to others.

    God bless and love,

    Larry
  • great hair day!!!!!!!! LOL
    Thanks Marburg and Samantha, I really appreciate the support. I'm different, but that's OK. I wear wigs for me, and sometimes for who I'm dating (blush).

    God bless,

    Larry
  • great hair day!!!!!!!! LOL
    Hi Happy,

    Thank you for being concerned about my feelings. I'm fine, I was trying to make a point using something that just happened to me recently.

    I truly don't get too upset when people make insensitive or insulting remarks. I knew I was going to get negative reactions when I chose to be a male wig wearer, or a Wigster as I like to call people like us. :smile:

    I have never met any other men who wear a variety of wigs. I've met several men who wear toupees because they are ashamed of being bald. That's not me. I love my bald head, but I like having hair, too. Wigs allow me to enjoy both looks, bald or haired (lol). One of my girl friends who supports my lifestyle, paid me a nice compliment -- It takes a really secure man to do what I'm doing.

    God bless,

    Larry
  • Wig styling careers

    I've looked into beauty schools, and now they require you to take courses on nails and on skin -- subjects I have no interest in. None offer classes in wig cutting as a specialty course. I'm afraid this is one dream that I'm going to have to get real and let it go. I do appreciate everyone's contributions to this discussion.
  • Can a Wig the wrong color and size be saved?
    Thanks Sonjia, I'll look into doing just that.

    Larry
  • great hair day!!!!!!!! LOL
    Hi everyone,

    I had a bad experience last week. People know that I wear wigs because I'm an openly bald person. Still, I was taken aback when this man I don't even know came up to me and wanted to know why I was wearing my new wig. Surprised, I honestly replied,, "I like variety." He grunted and said, "it's variety all right," as he walked away. It bothered me more than I realized since bad feelings came back reading some of your experiences.

    Sorry. I know it's off the topic. I just really needed to vent.

    God bless,

    Larry
  • Another newbie
    Hi Rosebud and welcome to the forum.

    Now may not be the time, but I hope you'll discover the fun that wigs provide as you try different colors and styles.

    God bless,

    Larry
  • Getting to know me.
    Here is another essay you might like.

    I’m a Wigster: The Story of a Man Who Likes to Wear Wigs

    By Larry Barbee

    A Wigster is someone who loves wigs, have more than one, and who enjoys wearing them openly and proudly. It is true that mostly women wear wigs, but so do some men. I know because I’m one of them! Yes, it’s possible for a heterosexual man to want to wear wigs just like the ladies do. I’m not the only one either, although most wig wearing men do so in private. Other guys wear them to hide their baldness, which for me is the only bad reason for wearing one.

    To say I love my bald head would be the understatement of the century; not even “vain” adequately describes my pride in having an attractive bald head. A friend of mine probably summed it up best. “Is Larry ashamed of being bald? Are you kidding, he’s conceited as hell about his baldness!”

    Yes, you heard me correctly. I’m a total baldy who loves being one, but I’m also a Wigster. Why? The simple truth is that I love variety. I like to wear wigs (and see women wearing them), because they’re fun! Wigs allow me (and them) to express different sides of our personality. At the same time, I get to keep how I naturally look – bald as an egg – which is my best look, as well as my favorite look.

    You may be thinking, “if everything is wonderful in bald-land, why does he want wigs for?” What if you love shrimp Alfredo, but had it served up to you every time you sat down for supper? It may continue to be your favorite but you would want something different once in a while. Well I feel that way about being bald. After everyone has seen it, ooohhhhed and aaaahhhhed over my bald head, I like to make a change because I’m not too proud to fish for compliments – especially when getting compliments have become few and far in between!

    I first started to wear wigs when I worked with some women who had alopecia areata. I’d be gloriously bald one day, an eye catching red head the next, and then a confident brunette the day after. The message was simple – losing your hair doesn’t have to be the end of your life. Wigs can be fun. Play with them so you can see how you look with hair that’s a different color, style, length and enjoy the compliments you’ll receive. Please read my essay, “A Special Wardrobe” for details at that stage of my being a Wigster. I was told one of the nicest things when I started this. A dear close gal pal said, “It takes a really secure man to do what you’re doing.”

    I’ve discovered some other things that have been a blessing because I’m a Wigster.

    I usually wear a wig on special occasions. I wear one on my Born Again birthday. When I’m wearing hair on that day, it allows me an opportunity to witness and give my testimony about how Jesus entered my life, and I can try to share His love with who I’m talking to.

    In a similar way it allows me to draw people’s attention to worth while causes like breast cancer awareness day or National alopecia awareness day. Sometimes it can be even more personal. When my sister, Anne, gets back a report that states she is cancer free, I remind them to check their breasts monthly, and schedule a mammogram if it’s past due when you should have had one. I get a chance to tell women all this just because they asked me, “so, what’s with the wig, Larry?”

    I make friends with women a whole lot easier when I’m wigged. I think hair is something ladies like to talk about, so my wigs seem to be a natural conversation starter for them.

    After they know the reasons why I wear wigs, I’m more approachable. People want to tell me about their problems, concerns, and fears.

    Even though I’ve been a Wigster in hibernation for many years, I find myself wanting to be an active one once again for all the above reasons. Not only is it good for me emotionally and psychologically, a lot of good things happen for other people as well. I can even serve God in an unusual way, too, so why not?
  • Getting to know me.
    Thank you, I'm glad you liked it.
  • This wig is not right for me....
    The Cancer Society would gladly accept the wig as a donation.
  • Getting to know me.
    I think you're a survivor and are going to do quite well. It'll take time, but with all the support you have I'm sure you are going to reclaim yourself esteem.

    God bless,

    Larry
  • Getting to know me, part 2.
    LOL Thank you, I'm glad you enjoyed the essay.

    Choosing to wear wigs again has been a good choice. Twenty years ago I was doing it to help people with aloecia areata. This time, I'm wearing them to bring attention to causes and issues that I feel are worth advocating. I wore "Floyd" for the first time several days ago for breast cancer awareness. My sister had both breasts removed and she got back a report stating she was cancer free. While I everyone's attention, I reminded the ladies to self examine once a month, and to check with their doctor when they should have a new mammogram.

    The responses I've gotten have been very gratifying. The nicest comment I've received was, "It takes a secure man to do what you're doing."

    God bless,

    Larry
  • Help us improve :)
    I'd like to see more products, reviews, and generally more support for guys who wear wigs.
    Thank you and God bless,
    Larry Barbee
  • Can a Wig the wrong color and size be saved?
    Thanks Jayne,

    I'm afraid I paid too much for this one, so I'm bound and determined to "save" it, if at all possible.
  • I've never belonged to a group like this before! Happy to be here!
    Welcome to the group,Cathy.

    God bless and Love,

    Larry
  • Tears in my eyes!
    I think you look lovely.
  • More Grey
    I also agree, Janet. I have friends who are graying and don't want to get rid of their gray and resent being told they should by followers of current standards. Hopefully in the future the colors of gray will get the respect that they deserve.
  • I took a chance on a little-heard-of wig
    I think it truly suits you -- well done.
  • My Bald and Wig story Pt 2
    Thank you.It's all about having fun -- and if I also happen to look great, I'll have to get over it (sigh). :smile:
  • New Hair - If You Dare - Pictures! tell me what ya think
    You're very welcome. Have a nice day and go turn some gentlemen's heads.

    God bless and Love,

    Larry
  • New Hair - If You Dare - Pictures! tell me what ya think
    I think you look lovely. It frames your face beautifully. You really knocked it out of the ball park with this one.