• Advice needed please
    Hi Larry - based on your posts, I can tell that wigs are a big part of your life. That is great and it seems to work for you.

    For me, wigs are simply a means to an end and not worth discussing at a lunch or dinner or any social gathering. It is not that I am concerned about someone knowing I am wearing a wig, or even feeling bad about it. I wear wigs constantly and I am comfortable with that - but it is NOT a big part of my life. The only time I really concentrate on it is when I am getting a new one and I have to style it. Then, once done, it is just something I wear. If someone compliments me, I simply say thank you. If I had a nice dress and someone said nice dress, i would simply say thank you. I would NOT go into the origin of the dress, or why I chose it, or the cost, etc. Compliments are typically given without expectation of further conversation. My wigs are simply part of my apparel.

    I think a lot of people who post here are in a similar place to me - I have been wearing wigs for a while and consider myself transitioned.

    That said, I do appreciate that some people are still in transition and have that trauma that I did have a few years back. I come to this forum typically when I get an email from and I am curious to see any new posts. I especially like to see posts from the original posters - as it brings back memories. But I do try to help anyone that asks an on point question if I feel my experience can help.
  • Advice needed please
    i primarily wear my jon renau heat. Occasionally my jon renau naomi. Both are restyled and cut - i dont like them out of the box. I only like heat resistant (due to texture) and lace front. Heat is less expensive so i can change out more frequently that otherwise - but getting them the way i like them takes way too long. I dont wear the hairdo very often but i do like that wig. I just prefer heat as my everyday.
    I really wonder if they moderate this forum anymore because they used to flag posts with other wig company names. I check maybe once a week and enjoy seeing posts especially from names ii recognize. I always enjoy seeing your name:)
  • Advice needed please
    Don't know if you remember but i have seen pics of you in a couple of different wigs and you looked great:) It was back in the day when people posted pics before the big dust up. Glad the lunch went well. I miss the chats with the people who used to come to this forum regularly. This is basically the only place I discuss wigs. In my life - it is just something I need to wear thanks to my extremely thin hair and a terrible shape head. This make me look better - at least I think so:) But, i would not discuss my bras and I will not discuss adult diapers if I get to the point where I need those. This is just a tool to get on with my life - and it is relatively simple as long as I don't need a new wig.

    I completely agree with A7x in that a change is largely noticeable only to us. Others think -hmm - you look different and I cannot put my finger on why. Kind of funny really.

    Cheers. Please keep posting - I miss the posts from "old group" here. Remember ALEX? Whatever happened to him? And of course, Moonlitnight served as a moderator for a bit and it was taking so much time. Now - I think no moderator?
  • Cut by a lace front!
    Never had this happen either. I primarily wear Jon Renau - so perhaps the other brand has a sharper edge.
  • Advice needed please
    I had a friend who had a rule that medical talk at his house was limited to 15 minutes at the front end of the party. Why - because people usually like to talk about other stuff at a party. I cannot imagine your friends at a luncheon asking if you are wearing a wig. It would be rather rude after all. So - you could raise the issue but i am guessing that is not what you want. I NEVER discuss my wigs and it is not a burden to me. If i had to discuss them every time I saw someone - that would be a burden to me. So - to each his own path. Most people find other peoples hair to be a boring subject. Bottom line - very few people care. I don't care if people wear a wig. If someone looks good - either with or without a wig - I say you look good. I don't expect someone to fill me in on their new eyeshadow or that they wear fake eyelashes or that they have dyed their hair - unless I ask. I remember one time someone just in passing asked someone how they were doing - and the person went into a LONG diatribe about their health and what else was wrong in their lives. After the person was done with their story - I looked at the poor person who had asked how they were doing - and I said I bet that is the last time you make that mistake. He laughed. My point is this. We and our friends care about each other and hopefully their are there when you need them - but they don't need to hear every detail of your life - especially at an event. And believe me - whether or not you wear a wig to the party is a detail to them. I have to wear a wig all the time - but I refuse for it to become a huge part of my life. It is simply fixing my hair. Done. No need to fill anyone in on details unless they ask for them.
  • Advice needed please
    I just saw your post on wearing a pink highlighted wig. If you feel it will be a topic at the lunch and you are planning on “owning up” - i would consider wearing the pink one. For me - the worst thing is if someone feels sorry for me having to wear a wig - and the pink definitely puts a lighter spin on the discussion. Else - keep them guessing:)
  • Are you wearing a wig???
    People are understanding if men having a bald head - much less so of women. When was the last time you heard that HIS hair was his crowning glory.
  • Advice needed please
    When i first started wearing wigs it was after a rather long trip away. We normally leave summers and we had done some traveling before and after. When i returned - i could see people looking puzzled. No one asked if i were wearing a wig but several people told me i looked great. At least one person had come to the conclusion that i had plastic surgery:). A wig actually does make you look better. Since then i gave changed colors once and just got compliments on the new color. Each new wig looks a bit different but i am betting very few people notice. Everyone is more obsessed with themselves than my hair. If it has been a while - people will say you good or different but may not really know why. If you wear something really unusual - like RW if you dare - then it might be a topic but it would be a fun topic. A regular wig will take up no more than 5 minutes if anyone else's life. Just the way it is. But i can appreciate your anxiety - most of us feel it as well. They will just be happy to see uou after your absence.
  • Jon Renau Ignite colors
    When looking at jon renau colors - bear in mind that HD fibers show the colors quite differently from regular synthetic. I have also gound the blends are different from one wig to the next. Use the friendly return policy to try a color you think will work. Videos help a bit but monitors show differently. Good luck. Color is the hardest part.
  • Are you wearing a wig???
    I would never suggest getting in a car with someone you met online when meeting for the first time. Just unsafe.
    Now - the wig question - you raised his awareness of the wig possibility earlier in the evening.
    my guess is that he would not have noticed and certainly not have said anything if you had not raised the wig topic earlier. So - your wig may be just fine as is and it was only after unusual scrutiny that he noticed. I am married so i have not faced the dating with wig issue - but some on this forum have discussed it. Not sure how to avoid disclose if physical contact.
    I have been asked on two occasions about my wig - i am sure others suspect. My goal is for it to look as good as possible and as natural as possible. I also look at comfort. I cannot be bothered worrying about other’s suspicions but i also feel no need to confide in them. So i take compliments without comment and on the two occasions when asked i ignored the question and changed the subject. I think it is a rude question.
  • Help - New wig wearer - HD Synthetic Hair
    i use fabric softener when i wash my hd wig. Works for me and i wear HD jon renau. The wig - as it ages - does stay soft for shorter periods. That is just my experience.
  • Wouldn’t you know it!
    just want to point out that there are color differences within the same brand. For example, 12fs8 in a heat defiant wig is significantly different from 12fs8 in a regular synthetic. Even within heat defiant wigs, therefor one style v another - but those differences are more subtle.

    I had ordered a wig "early on" in 12fs8 that was not heat defiant and I hated the color. A couple of years late, I read that the color was different on heat defiant, order one of those, and love the color. I think that color is just always going to be trial and error until you get what you want.
  • Have you ever been "CALLED OUT" on wearing a wig or hair piece?
    My hair loss is genetic but has no real disease name. I agree that cancer survivors or alopecia patients have more of a story to tell that is met with empathy. I am not convinced that my story would be met with the same. I envision - everyones hair gets thinner as they age but they dont feel the need to cover it up - or someone saying it is vain to wear a wig or lazy. I just think the underlying reason we wear wigs can make it more difficult or embarrassing to discuss.

    If i say i have extremely thin hair / most people would not envision the degree of hair loss. People used to stare at my head before i started wearing wigs.

    So - i try to look as good as possible with my wig - i dont care if people suspect or know as long as they keep it to themselves.
  • How would you respond?
    Sorry to hear that your ex is not more supportive - but I am willing to bet that he does things that make him feel better about himself. Wig wearing has become normal for me after about 2+ years of doing it on a full time basis. I do go "naked" in the house with my biohair - but even then I tend to wear wigs at home to look and feel better. It is like I cannot stand to look in the mirror with my biohair. I think wigs are very convenient - and frankly - I wish I had made the change a lot sooner.

    no need to consult a psychiatrist on this issue in my humble opinion.
  • How would you respond?
    Curious if when you go in the pool are you worried about underwater or wind? I do water aerobics - so I tend to get the back of my head wet - but not totally underwater. I have one clip in each of my wigs. I have not had problems either in wind or doing water aerobics - but not sure how my old wigs would work if I went underwater or on a waterslide.

    Anyway - I used to get really bad sunburns on my head before wearing a wig - and since I always had extremely thin hair - it did not look good at the pool with my scalp showing. So - this is far better. No burnt head and i wear a wig that just looks windblown and undone - as I would wear my hair to the pool.

    The bottom get chlorine in it but since I use old wigs - I don't care.

    Fingers crossed but no problems so far.
  • Help us improve :)
    gosh- that is great that they are willing to do that. I love their wigs in general. I will pm - but basically i will be happy if those lot numbers match on future multiple purchases at the same time.

    Thanks for following up.
  • Help us improve :)
    i just uploaded the tags from my recent purchase. Notice that in addition to the style number - there is a second number on the left side of the tag.

    I believe this number represents the run number. When i used to order elsewhere - the person fulfilling the order said it was dye lot and they were careful to send from the same lot. There was never a color difference.

    In this past shipment - even my husband can tell the difference between the colors and believe me - that means it is noticeable.

    Interesting that JR says they dont have dye lots. What do they say this second number refers to? Even if they are style lot numbers - my guess is they work from the same blended hair - so basically dye lots.

    Can i in the future get the same style lots?

    Thanks for following up.
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  • great hair day!!!!!!!! LOL
    I know it is easier said than one - but you have to get to a point where you don't care about what some horrible person says. Most people in this world are kind and wonderful - but there is a segment that likes to put others down for whatever reason. The only way they can feel tall I think. I always try to assume that mean people have so many problems of their own that we should feel sorry for them rather than get upset.
  • Help us improve :)
    I just ordered and received 2 HEAT by JR wigs in 12fs8.

    As has been noted here in the forum and elsewhere - the colors on these wigs vary (sometimes significantly) based on dye lot. So - this time - I was clear when ordering that I wanted 2 wigs from the same dye lot (same run). Well - they are NOT from the same dye lot. And once again, the colors of the 2 wigs are quite different.

    So - I am hesitant to continue ordering from . Since both wigs are purchased at the same time - it is clear to me that you should be able to get the same dye lot - and frankly, I would rather wait for the next run rather than get 2 different color lots.

    I used to order elsewhere and they would get me the same dye lot - so I really will need some assurance going forward or I will order elsewhere. I am also going to post this issue in the general chat because I know others have the same issue.

    Hope something can be done to address this issue. One of my wigs is hardly rooted at all - and the other is. A real issue since I tend to rotate wigs.
  • Bleach/ammonia bath
    wow - never thought of that.
  • Bleach/ammonia bath
    I would only try that on a wig so worn out that it should be thrown out anyway. Sounds like it could really damage the hair.
  • Color representation on
    hi - i also wear heat by jr as well as naomi by jr. I style both with bangs and lately have had a strong preference for wearing naomi.

    Many wigs come with the zig zag part. Trick is - if you change the part it may not be eligible to return. Many of the raquel welsh wigs are like that - the zig zag. It is gard to know what the wig will liok like without moving the part. Catch 22.

    Color is the hardest thing to get right. Curious what color jr you wear. I am changing from shaded mocha to 12fs8. Just needed a cgange.
  • New Hair - If You Dare - Pictures! tell me what ya think
    It looks great on you. I love the style as well -
  • Tape under lace/monofilament
    I may be misreading - but the cvs tape referred to is one to make the mono top part look more realistic - especially if you have hair underneath. I think the tape you refer to is a holding tape - double sided. The cvs tape is not double-sided - just silicone to make it look like scalp showing through.
  • What do you wear if in hospital or overnight?
    I am curious - it is one thing to just "be in the hospital" and another to be in surgery. Is sanitation an issue? After all - it is a synthetic that is on your head and it could carry things that "regular washed hair" might not. Does the OR cap cover that issue?

    Just wondering.
  • Wigs and menopause?!?!?
    hi - what wig are you wearing in your profile pic? Looks great.
  • how often do you wash your wig??
    i am also surprised. I let mine soak in fabric softener for at least 20 minutes - then a quick rinse and dry outside on a stand. Mono top and lace front wigs fir tye most part.
  • How would you respond?
    It is a personal decision and people should respect privacy if someone is not inclined to "share". For me - this is a chronic situation and I frankly do not want to spend my life discussing it. So, if someone compliments my hair, I just say thank you. Done - end of story. I am sure sometimes they are thinking that it is a wig - it probably looks better than most "real hair", but I still don't want to discuss it. Most people associate full time wig wearing with either being sick, or having religious reason. Either one leads to discussion that I would not want to become a big part of my life. I wear a wig so that I can "blend in" and look better. That is it. The whole Story told:)
  • How would you respond?
    It is not that I think it is somehow embarrassing to wear wigs - it is more that I don't want to be the topic of conversation. And, I don't want people staring at my head as it just makes me uncomfortable. Also, the next part of that conversation is why I wear wigs. In my case - I have extreme thinning - and although some people with hair as thin as mine do not wear wigs - I don't come across people with hair this thin very often. So, I assume some must be wearing wigs. But, I don't want to talk about my thinning hair - don't want to discuss what vitamins I should be taking or what I should be eating - don't want to talk about genetics, etc. If I wore wigs "for fun", I would probably be more open about it and would probably wear all different styles and colors. If I had some health issues, it would depend on whether I wanted to discuss them. But in general - I don't want this to be a focus of my life. So, I stay in the wig closet - at least as far as I know - in other words, people might know or suspect but I have not discussed it with them.
  • How would you respond?
    I think it depends on whether you are "out of the closet" with wigs and how close the girlfriends are. We travel a lot - so I have told people that I get my hair cut by a retired lady in southern California - and that she only works out of her house and cuts hair for people she has worked on for years. Yep - it has come up and that explanation tends to shut them up. In fact, I wear Jon Renau out of California so it is not really a lie.

    Only once have I discussed with a non-close friend that I wear a wig - and she also wears one so we just spotted each other. Even then - I would not bring it up.

    People do ask questions when they suspect something in a way to get you to disclose info. If you are not ready to discuss it, then don't. That is my advice.